Monday, August 28, 2006
The Irony of It
Well, just after I mentioned how I thought people were staring at Sheena, I went and stared at a little girl with DS today. We were at the Childrens Hospital, and when we were leaving, we passed a family - their youngest had DS. I unintentionally stared. I am sure that the mum noticed, as she gave me a long-look back along with a gentle smile. Sheena was getting a cuddle from her Dad, so she would not have noticed her condition. I hope she didn't think I was out of line.
When I am out and I see other parents who are with their kids that have DS, I have not been bold enough (so far) to go up for a chat. I feel compelled to approach them, but at the same time, I don't want to catch them off-guard. I would not usually approach total strangers, so I am not sure if it is really appropriate. What are other people's view on that? I also don't really know what I'd talk about! The conversion might go,
Me: "Oh, I noticed your child has DS."
Stranger: "Yep, that is right."
Me: "He/She is really cute, my girl has DS too"
Stranger: "Really, there you go..."
Me: "Yeah, just happened to notice... ah..., so..., ah... is s/he in EI around here?"
OK, I might be paranoid, and I am sure we could elaborate more than that, but I think that it is fair to say, that just because your kid has DS, it doesn't mean that you are automatically going to have a great rapport with other parents. I think that you share a situation as far as diagnosis is concerned, but you don't necessarily share the same response to the situation.